April 17, 2023

Relationship Patterns pt3- Tips to create new healthy, authentic relationship patterns S6E25

If you’ve been feeling like you’re running on a treadmill and not making any real progress, it is because you don’t yet know who you truly are in a relationship – what your relationship patterns are, what works for you & what doesn’t and what you want in the future of your love life.


If you’ve ever had the thought of marriage and a family in your future, know this: it is 100% available to you and the voice in your head that tells you it’s not, is lying to you. No matter how much action you take, if your mindset does not welcome new, healthy relationship patterns, you are not going to be able to bring about a substantial change in your love life. This is exactly what is called self-sabotage.


In this episode, we discuss that the key to changing this is being powerfully vulnerable & transparent with yourself about what you want in your relationship and taking full ownership of the choices you make in your courtship & dating journey. You have to decide that your old patterns are not serving you any longer and you want to make the decision to be committed to making your future happen.


Listen to this podcast to finally give yourself the permission to not shrink yourself when you decide to dream, think and live big. You are allowed to design a Captivating Life with a man who wants to grow with you.


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In the 3 day Virtual Relationship Reset this weekend, you will get tools and coaching on how to manage your thoughts, beliefs and feelings. Learn how to be on the driver’s seat of your love life.

You can register in the link mentioned below and set the “reset” button on your love life!


Time Stamps For This Episode:


00:00 – Introduction

00:29 – Self Care Weekends

4:01 – Cycle of repeat experiences

6:20 – You should know this, if you really want a marriage & family life

7:57 – Owning the desire for a partner

10:06 – You have to get clear on your patterns

12:00 – You have help available to you

12:33 – 5 Tips to create new authentic, high value relationships

13:05 – 1st Tip

16:47 – 2nd Tip

19:24 – 3rd Tip

24:00 – 4th Tip (The Gap)

26:58 – Make the Decision (You are committed to make that happen)

30:00 – Note on Making Decisions

34:32 – There is no Plan B

35:58 – Conclusion




Links Mentioned In This Episode:


Register for 3 Day Relationship Reset



Apply to the Captivating Courtship Code 2.0 Coaching Program



Queen of Courtship Assessment


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meet the host

Relationship coach, author, creator of the Captivating Courtship Code

I’m passionate about improving the state of women’s relationships because a happy, healthy, loved and valued woman not only transforms her love life but has the power and impact to transform her family tree for generations to come. 

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