August 7, 2023

Trophy Love Loop: Boundaries and Fear of Missing Out S6E41

Trophy Love Loop: Boundaries and Fear of Missing Out

Do you have the Trophy Love Loop? One of the biggest challenges with the Trophy Love Loop is having difficult keeping boundaries due to a fear of missing out. This fear is rooted in survival emotions that not only causes low value behaviors in relationships and your personal life, but it also causes you to attract and work to keep relationships that are low value and less than you deserve.

All of this is rooted in thoughts, feelings and beliefs of not being worthy of the love and security you desire and deserve. When you don’t believe you are enough and that you can actually have the relationship you deserve, you will settle and find yourself feeling anxious and insecure with the men you meet.

These behaviors also trickle into your personal and work relationships, resulting in experiences and relationships that don’t allow you to feel safe and valued. You can turn this around. You deserve to break this loop and have the relationship of your dreams and deepest, and most authentic desires. 

If you have the Trophy relationship pattern this episode and blog is dedicated to you.

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The Trophy Love loop is the most common relationship pattern we coach at Captivating Courtship. They are anxious, high achievers who tend to have difficulties keeping boundaries and oftentimes find themselves in non-committal and emotionally unavailable relationships. 

This pattern, although painful and frustrating, keeps Trophy Chasers in a loop of chasing commitment from partners who will not provide the emotional security they so desperately long for.

If you have the Trophy Love Loop, one of the challenges you may be facing is sticking to your boundaries due to a deep fear of missing out. Recognizing this pattern is essential. 

The fear of missing out will lead you to make decisions that may not align with your values or needs. This fear will cause you to negotiate with your values, compromise your boundaries, and settle for a lack of love, value, respect and commitment that you should expect from a partner.

That’s why it is vital for Trophy Chasers to understand the vital role boundaries play in relationships. You must find the confidence and worthiness to not only set boundaries, but keep them. Especially during the dating and courtship process. Your brain will tell you you will be abandoned and never have the future you desire. Even still, you must push past FOMO, commit to your boundaries, and step into your worthiness.

On the other side is the love, value, and respect from a partner who will cherish and provide you with the relationship you have been waiting for.


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I’m passionate about improving the state of women’s relationships because a happy, healthy, loved and valued woman not only transforms her love life but has the power and impact to transform her family tree for generations to come. 

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